Friday, February 22, 2013
- earth mama angel baby nipple butter. way better than lansinoh lanolin.
- get at least 2 additional top sheets for the zip sheets. i had registered, based on advice of my dear friend abriel, for quickzip sheets for the crib. callie thought they were a good idea, so she also registered for them. i have one sheet set (with the zipper base and top sheet), plus one additional top sheet. one more top sheet would be nice to have.
- video monitor. not only because it's nice to put an eye on daxon when he starts to fuss, but also because it's entertaining to watch him "twitch" in his sleep while he's swaddled. it's like watching a burrito dance.
- skip the sleep sheep. based on a ton of "must have" lists that i looked i, i foolishly registered for the sleep sheep. daxon hated it. the sheep only runs for 45 minutes then shuts off. matt and i need white noise in our bedroom all night - if we lose power in the middle of the night, i will wake up because the fan will stop running. i should have known that our offspring would also need constant white noise. i ended up going out and purchasing a white noise machine (we got the graco sweet slumber machine - it plays white noise and lullabies, plus you can plug your mp3 player into it, and it runs on ac power or battery power).
- have a lamp and/or nightlight next to where you'll nurse (like, in arm's length). i do not have anything next to the glider, and so sometimes in the middle of the night when i'm having a hard time getting daxon back to sleep, i have to get up, walk over to the lamp, and turn it off, which just stimulates him even more. it would be really nice to just reach over and switch it off, or at least dim it. i am looking into a way to make this happen in his room.
- get at least one easy swaddler, like the swaddleme blanket. i use the aden + anais swaddle blankets, which means i have to manually wrap him myself. that's fine for me, but i worry the grandparents may struggle, so we have one halo sleepsack swaddle, so we can use it with or without his arms pinned down.
- get lots of burp cloths and stash them everywhere. i like the gerber cloth diapers, as recommended by several people.
- both of you (ie, both parents) should download the baby connect app on your phones. this helps you track everything - nursing, pumping, bottles, sleeping, diapers, doctor's appointments... it syncs between however many people have access to your account, and you can even send each other messages.
- get some ky jelly for the rectal thermometer. i told this story already.
- don't be surprised if you find yourself crying harder than you've cried in years. and totally out of nowhere. daxon pops off his latch during feeding? cue hysterics. postpartum hormones are no joke.
- don't bother freezing pads for postpartum. see if you can get some of the ice packs from the hospital. callie froze maxipads for me (we'd both read it on some blogs) but it was a major fail. they just fold back up in the freezer. plus, what happens when they melt? sounds messy. the hospital gives you these ice packs that you crack and put in the mesh panties. they were awesome, and i'm so mad i didn't get any to bring home. stock up on pads, tucks pads, and hydrocortisone cream. and a rubber donut to take the pressure off your seat!
- watch and learn the 5 s's. we didn't think to employ these techniques until one desperate evening when daxon was incredibly fussy. but i swaddled him (1), put him on his side on my legs (2), jimmied my legs about to "shake" him (3), and stuck his paci in his mouth (4) - we use the 5th s (shushing) occasionally, too. within 30 seconds he was silent, and within 5 minutes he was sound asleep.
- don't throw away boxes for stuff! as we unpacked stuff from my shower, we broke down and threw out (or recycled) the packaging. i now have a sleep sheep and a twilight turtle that are getting no use, but i can't return them because i threw out the packaging. dumb. hopefully i can consign them somewhere.
Wednesday, February 20, 2013
anyway, daxon and i will be going home either wednesday night or thursday morning. our spa day is thursday, starting at 11 (we'll have to be there around 10:30). matt will come home friday night. the baby shower and birthday party are on saturday. so that's 4 days to pack for. here is all the stuff that we "need" for daxon:
- swaddle blanket (probably take 2, sometimes he spits up in the middle of the night)
- white noise machine (luckily this runs on batteries)
- pump and supplies
- frozen milk (more to follow)
- pack and play
- 4 days of outfits (plus another couple for potential diaper blowouts)
- 4 days of diapers (i'll probably just take a whole pack)
- diaper bag
as for nursing/pumping/feeding. like i said, our spa day is thursday. we will probably leave the house at 10, and i probably won't get home till 3 or 4 (i have a haircut scheduled for after the spa). i will nurse him before we leave (around 9). in that time frame, he'll need at least 2 bottles, but i want to have 3 ready for him. he eats about 3oz at each feeding, so that's 9oz right there. then on saturday, matt is going to take him over to his parents' house during the shower, so he'll need at least 1 bottle, but again, i'd like to have 2 ready, just in case, so that's another 6oz. i can escape and nurse him during the birthday party, cuz we'll be back together for that. oh, and then friday night, we might go out for drinks with some friends, so i'll need a bottle for a night feeding. so i need 21oz, which i have in my freezer already, but it's more than half my current supply. i mean, i'll pump after the spa and before my haircut (i can't go that long without pumping or nursing - holy painful boobies!), and each morning/night like i already am. so do i take the 21oz frozen, or do i take like 14oz frozen and then supplement with the fresh stuff? i think i might just take the whole 21oz frozen and then freeze whatever i pump while i'm there, because who knows how much i'll get pumping while away - my supply may take a hit from the stress or whatever
did you follow any of that? my next dilemma - when we do take the trip? the trip home i'm not worried about - we'll head home during his afternoon nap (not that we have a real afternoon naptime, but he'll sleep when we put him in the car, and that'll be his naptime). but for the trip to hershey. if we leave wednesday night, i can put him in the car for his evening "nap," then put him to bed when we get there - get him in the house, let him say hi to fritz and gigi while i set up the pack and play, then nurse him and put him down. my concern with this is that he's so fussy in the evenings and cluster feeds, i don't know if the car ride will be enough to keep him calm. if we leave thursday morning, we could leave when he first wakes up, i can nurse him when we get home, and then head out to the spa. again, though, he sometimes cluster feeds in the mornings, so would the car ride be enough to keep him calm? ugh...decisions, decisions.
any thoughts or tips? good lord, i'm going to need a separate suitcase just for daxon's stuff! ha ha. man, traveling with a baby. totally different experience!!
Thursday, February 14, 2013
|phils are out of season, but it's the only sports team mom and dad can agree on!|
|zonked on mom and dad's bed after a rough night|
|fist bump for the bathtime mohawk|
|daxon and grandpa|
|all snugged up with daddy|
Tuesday, February 12, 2013
daxon was in a mood tonight. after sleeping most of the day, he was incredibly fussy all evening. he's often fussy in the evening, but this was extreme. we also thought he felt kind of warm. i took his temperature with the forehead scanner, and it was fine - 98.2. but when i took him upstairs to put him down to bed, he was just not himself. and he still felt warm. plus it was really hot in his room. so i changed him out of his sleeper and put him in a short-sleeved onesie, knowing i'd be swaddling him soon. i attempted to nurse him, and he wasn't having it. he screamed his head off, thrashed, and pulled away from me. again, not himself. so i decided to take his temperature with the rectal thermometer. first time ever. yikes. so i opened the package and read the directions. I knew you had to use a lubricant, but the directions specifically said not a petroleum-based lubricant. all I had in the nursery was vaseline, which is petroleum-based. uhhhh....
fast forward to me digging the box of lube that my step-sister had gotten me as a gag gift for my bridal shower 3 years ago out of my bedside table. the as yet unopened box of lube.
until tonight. daxon just got his temperature taken (99.0) with a rectal thermometer lubricated with durex black cherry flavored lube. real classy, mom.
Wednesday, February 6, 2013
*this isn't a picture of the social smile, but one of his waking up smiles. i was doing a diy photoshoot one day, and happened to snap this at just the right moment. loooooovvve.
Tuesday, February 5, 2013
-worry. we've all heard it a thousand times - as a mother, you never stop worrying. they aren't kidding. i think of myself as a pretty laid-back person, but even i find that i am constantly worried - is he getting enough to eat? am i producing enough milk? is he choking? is my let-down too much for him? is he warm enough? is he happy? am i responding to his cues right? you get the gist.